Penny Casselman [00:00:08]:
Welcome to the Pivot with Passion podcast. Hi. I'm Penny Casselman. I believe everyone is deserving of a phenomenal life, and that life starts when you grab a red marker and claim what you truly desire. Regardless of where you came from, where you're at, or where you think you're edit. Life is what you make of it, and when you learn to pivot with passion, your world explodes with opportunities. Go grab your favorite beverage, and let's shake things up as we explore how to pivot with passion. Hello, my friend, and welcome to episode 10.
Penny Casselman [00:00:52]:
Now you probably I've heard someone say this or maybe you embrace it yourself, and that is live with no regret. And I was a big believer in this mantra. I mean, after all, you only have regrets after something has happened. And since we can't go back in a time machine to change anything, why would we want to carry an uncomfortable or strange situation forward. Here's my challenge. Because today, I now believe that regret is a good thing when it comes from a place of growth. Now hang with me here. If you've ever seen the Spider Man cartoon or watched a Spider Man movie, you are very familiar with his spidey senses that are there to alert him when danger is near.
Penny Casselman [00:01:55]:
And regret is kind of like our spidey senses. It's a signal that we recognize and feel when something didn't quite go as planned or anticipated. And when that happens, we have 2 options. We can brush it off and ignore it, or we can take a pause, reflect, and learn from it. So in today's episode, I'm gonna share with you the simple word shift I've used to help me keep regrets in perspective, and I hope it helps you to lean into this idea too, so that you can start to evolve into the best version of yourself. And side note, because you're listening to this podcast, my friend, you're already well on your way. It's time for a clarity cocktail. My friend, have you noticed that I keep pulling the clarity cocktail tale further and further to the front of my episodes because I keep getting resounding love for the intro and outro for this little segment.
Penny Casselman [00:03:18]:
So why keep a good thing hidden for later in the episode, here we are. This week's clarity cocktail comes from a book called the top 5 regrets of the dying by author Bronnie Ware. And I want to share the number one regret that she uncovers from working in the field of palliative care, and that is this. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Here it is one more time for you to noodle on. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. That is such a powerful reflection because At the point these people recognized it, it was too late to make any corrections in their life. And my friend, I don't know about you, but I certainly do not want to be on my deathbed having regrets.
Penny Casselman [00:04:27]:
Now I do realize that may sound slightly counterintuitive to what I've stated earlier, but hang with me here. In the last episode, I shared the idea that life isn't simply what happens to you. It's what you do with what you're given, And part of what you're given is awareness. And I've now made you aware of the number one regret of the dying. So what will you do now? Okay. Okay. Given the festive season we're in, this is not meant to be a downer. Instead.
Penny Casselman [00:05:05]:
I want you to look at this as a gift because if your ears are picking up what I'm throwing down today, you're still among the living and can choose to pause and reflect on what regret means to you. So imagine getting to the end of each year with no regrets because Let's not wait until we're on death's door to revisit what regrets really mean to us. In fact, you can start today and take steps to address any regrets. And what that might look like could be correcting a wrong. It could be repairing a relationship, own up to a mistake, forgive someone, or accept an apology that you've been ignoring. And with that, you can begin to turn any fine part of your life into something full of grace, gratitude, and beyond phenomenal. So embrace this gift of knowing what the number one regret of the dying is, and use it to your advantage to turn 2024 into the most magical year you can imagine. And now back to the episode.
Penny Casselman [00:06:32]:
Cheers. Circling back to the idea of regret being a good thing, one of the mistakes I think we all make, and I know I was guilty of this for decades, was the idea of never having regrets. Thinking that if I had regrets, I was weak. But reflecting now, I realized that that left me feeling at times, like a bully, and as a result, feeling isolated. And it's no wonder I thought that because I cannot tell you how often I was on the receiving end of some pretty shitty interactions. And I guarantee over time being expose to those I subconsciously believed this must be how it's done. Disregard any feelings because, clearly, the other party has no regrets and seems to be doing just fine. But here's the catch.
Penny Casselman [00:07:33]:
If you are committed to being a better person tomorrow than you are today, and you have a thirst for knowledge. Side note. Since you are listening to the podcast, I fully believe both of those things to be true for you. There comes a point where you will reflect on a past situation and realize, yikes. I had a part in that unfortunate outcome, and now it does not sit so well with me. That, my friend, is when you know that you've grown because that's when you have an opportunity to reflect and release the regret in a way that supports you. I wanna share with you this perspective. We don't change.
Penny Casselman [00:08:23]:
We evolve. This is the word swap I was talking about at the top of the episode that I embrace so often when I'm having to shift my perspective on topics. This is your permission slip to change the way you look at regret. Change implies that we forget everything before. But evolve is so much more nuanced. To me, evolve is we get to keep all of our experiences and bring along new knowledge and past knowledge and combine it to reinterpret and grow. In episode 3, I shared the sage wisdom from my dad, and I'm gonna adapt it just a little bit for this episode. But in essence, he said, do you know what went wrong, and would you do it again? I think as you reflect on regrets, you reflect on experiences that asking that question coupled with the understanding that we evolve overtime.
Penny Casselman [00:09:39]:
It's a magical combination that truly, when you identify a regret, helps you release any tie to the negativity, the spidey senses that you may have had when you thought of it. So my final thought in this short and sweet little episode, I want you to feel empowered to evolve into the next best version of you, and that starts by choosing how you interpret regret in your life. And wherever you choose to land on the subject is good. That is the privilege that you have for being a unique and wonderful human. But my challenge to you is take a pause and reflect how you can set yourself up for an abundant evolution in the new year filled with no regrets. Friend, thanks for listening to this episode of Pivot with Passion. If you've been feeling Duck. Exhausted or frustrated? This is your permission slip to go grab a red marker and claim the life you ire and deserve.
Penny Casselman [00:10:58]:
If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a friend, and then hop over to rate and review the show on Apple Podcast us because my goal is to put a red marker in everyone's hand, and I need your help to spread the word and make that happen. Until the next episode, go grab a red marker. Get excited for your future, and make your 1st move to pivot with passion.
